Let me ask you something – how often do you check your phone to see if anyone liked your latest post, commented on your story, or even just viewed your content?

If you’re anything like me, that “just checking” habit can get out of hand. It becomes a cycle. You share something, refresh the page a few times, and hope for validation.

And it feels great, right? Until the moment when…there’s nothing.

Overcoming Fear: From Self-Doubt to Sharing

When I started sharing my journey, I was terrified. I’m someone who’s wrestled with self-doubt my whole life. Maybe it’s from my struggles with dyslexia and feeling left behind in school.

I always felt like I had to push myself extra hard just to prove my worth. For years, I avoided putting my voice out there, scared of judgment or of not measuring up. And that need for validation didn’t vanish once I started – if anything, it got louder.

As a consultant, I loved meeting clients face-to-face and seeing their reactions to my work. It gave me that “You’re doing great” feeling on the spot. It was addictive.

So, when I began putting my thoughts online, I wanted that same immediate feedback. But social media doesn’t work that way. Sometimes there’s silence, and with it, that old voice creeps back, whispering: “What if no one cares? What if I’m just wasting my time?”

The Real Why: Sharing for a Higher Purpose

Then I remembered something crucial: why did I start this journey in the first place? Was it for likes, or for something greater?

I began this work because I believe that Hashem has a plan for each of us. For me, right now, it’s about sharing Torah and bitachon to help others connect with Hashem. It’s about encouraging those who might feel distant to find that connection a little easier.

But getting lost in likes and views? That’s not bitachon – that’s looking outward instead of upward.

Lessons from Avraham: Trusting Hashem on the Unclear Path

In this week’s Parsha, Lech Lecha, Hashem tells Avram (soon to be Avraham Avinu) to leave everything he knows. Imagine that – being asked to step into the unknown, with just Hashem’s word to go on.

Hashem promises him greatness, yet as soon as Avram arrives, there’s a famine, and he has to leave. Not exactly the clear path to blessings and abundance he might have expected. And yet, Avram’s trust didn’t waver. He continued to put one foot in front of the other, following Hashem’s call even when it made no sense.

Finding Strength in Tests and Challenges

How often do we find ourselves on that same path? We have moments when we’re doing everything right, trusting Hashem, showing up – and then…nothing.

No feedback, no “likes,” no validation. Those are the moments of true bitachon. They are tests, just like Avraham’s, to see if we’ll keep going even without the applause.

We’re all tested in unique ways, but they have one thing in common – they give us a chance to grow.

Asking Hashem to help us build bitachon isn’t like leveling up in a game. He doesn’t just hand it to us; Hashem puts us in situations where we have to work for it. 

True Bitachon: Trying, Letting Go, and Leaving Results to Hashem

When I think about my need for feedback, I remind myself: if I’m doing this for Hashem, I don’t need likes or views. The value I bring is in the effort, in my hishtadlut, and the rest is entirely in His hands.

It’s easy to crave the tangible. We want to know we’re helping, that people are benefiting, and that our work matters. But bitachon means trusting that Hashem is working through us in ways we can’t always see. It’s about releasing control of the results.

So, the next time I catch myself refreshing a page for the third time, I pause. Why am I doing this?

Hashem wants my effort, my sincerity, my commitment to sharing His wisdom – not my dependence on social media metrics. It’s a humbling realization: my role is to try, and then let go.

Here’s what I’m learning, and maybe it’s something you can relate to, too. Bitachon is not a “one and done” skill. It’s more like climbing up a down escalator – if you stop putting in the work, you’ll slip backward. Every moment of doubt is a new opportunity to ask, “What can I learn from this?”

Bitachon requires constant maintenance, but the reward is a peace that surpasses all the fleeting validation we chase. And that’s what I hope to share with you. 

You Can Help Spread the Message

And here’s the thing – part of my hishtadlut is not only creating and sharing this content, but also asking you to help spread it. So, if this post or any of my content speaks to you, a like, comment or share would go a long way in helping others who might need the message. Teamwork!

Join Me on the Journey: Growing Bitachon Together

And if you’re ready to really grow your bitachon, join the waitlist for my upcoming course. Let’s work through this together, encouraging each other as we turn toward Hashem, one small, bitachon-filled step at a time.

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